Dreaming

Since losing David in October, I have had many of those mornings where you wake up and you know that you have just dreamt about something, but then you can just feel it start to drift away from you, before you can sort out the details.  That was how it has been thus far: waking up knowing that I just dreamt about David, trying desperately to try to hold onto the thought or image or memory, but feeling helpless as it slips through my fingers.  A little over a month ago, however, my dream was different; I still can remember the images, words and feelings from those moments.  I started writing this post not long after, but today felt like a good day to finalize and share.


David was back.  Just like that, he had walked in the door as if nothing had happened.  We were actually at David's parents house with his family and friends and everything and everyone seemed normal.  I stood awestruck not knowing how to react as David seemed so nonchalant about his return.  I didn't know what to say or how to act, if I should say or ask anything at all or rather just embrace the moment to have him back in our lives.  I kept quiet for a while as we just sat on the couch watching TV and people moved throughout the house.  Finally I turned to David and whispered, "Why? Why did it happen?" hoping, I think, for more clarity about those finals moments before he left us.  And I got nothing but a blank stare.  And silence.  Then he looked at me like I was a crazy person (a look I know well) and said "'Why?' What?"  I could tell by the look in his eyes that he truly had no idea what I was referring to.  I didn't need to clarify the question or push further about his leaving us or his sudden return; I knew it would be fruitless and I didn't want to ruin the chance at having him back.

Then I woke up and just like that our moment was over.  I didn't need to grasp at the fading memories of my dream, I could tell immediately that it had left its mark.  It felt so real, so vivid.  Yet, after all the times of helplessly pulling at these short dreaming moments, remembering and being able to recall the dream made it no easier, in fact I think it hurt more.  For in those few moments of dreaming, I really thought we had him back, that through some miracle we had turned back time.  Waking up I was thrown harshly back into reality, as I have been so many mornings before and since.  I had laid in bed for a bit, just thinking, wondering what this dream meant.  I came to think that maybe this is David's new world: he doesn't know or remember leaving us, he has no memories of that day or the struggles he faced leading up to it.  Perhaps in his blissfully perfect world he is just hanging out and talking with everyone like nothing has changed.  Maybe then too he doesn't know our pain; as strange as it sounds, I kind of like that idea.  I have worried that if David is truly aware of what happened, then he may feel guilty for leaving us, and no one who struggled as he did should feel guilt.  Ever.

In the end, these are all simply thoughts and I suppose it is up to me to choose what to think about this particular dream, along with so many other things.  Today, I choose to believe that David is a little oblivious to what's happened, because today, that's what helps.

Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts

A few months back, while I was on lunch duty, one of my students from last year stopped me and said "Miss, I've been meaning to ask you: what are your thoughts on the afterlife?"  Of course I was caught a bit off guard, but my response was honest: that I wasn't quite sure where I stood on the idea yet, I was still trying to figure it out for myself.  He asked how anyone could possibly think that there is anything more than to just being dead and then ensued a bit of a debate in Spanish with some of his friends.  I shared my thoughts, saying that I believe a large part of it is that those left behind after someone dies don't want to think that their loved one is simple gone; they want to believe that they are still with them in some way.  The conversation went on and we had a small circle and students asked about my beliefs on other things like the beginning of life or the universe: they were curious if I believed in the story God created everything or I had a scientific point of view.  I gave them the answer I always give: both.  As a person who has a strong foundation in science I cannot help but believe that evolution has occurred and that the universe began with the perfect alignment of particles and that after millions and millions of years it allowed life to eventually form (forgive me for simplifying it, they are only 13).  I explained that while these theories tell me how these things happen scientifically, my faith has always played a part as well and that I do not believe that these perfect conditions happened by chance, that I believe there is a greater being at work that allowed for all of this to be set in motion.  I explained that I know that others on either side of the spectrum may disagree with me, but that this is the balance that I have found.  I could see the wheels turning, as they processed what I shared and considered their own thoughts as well as those of their peers.  We all agreed that this, like many things, was something that each of them would decide their stance on in their own in time, and that there was no rush to do so.  

I share this story because I remembered it myself last night as I was finishing a book, Looking for Alaska.  I will try not to give away too much of the story because I hope you all take the time to read it, but be warned, there may be a few inadvertent spoilers (even if there are, you should still read it).  In the last pages, one of the main characters is also reflecting on the afterlife and at first shares the thoughts of my student, that we simple are gone and eventually become part of the earth again and that's all there is too it.  Done.  They also agreed that perhaps "the afterlife is just something we made up to ease the pain of loss", as I once shared with my curious 8th graders.  But then they say something spectacular* (well I suppose the author John Green does):

"I believe now that we are greater than the sum of our parts.  If you take [a person's] genetic code and you add [their] life experiences and the relationships [they] had with people, and then you take the size and shape of [their] body, you do not get [them].  There is something else entirely.  There is a part greater than the sum of [their] parts.  And that part has to go somewhere, because it cannot be destroyed.  

Although no one will ever accuse me of being much of a science student, one thing I learned from science classes is that energy is never created or destroyed...We are as indestructible as we believe ourselves to be...We need never be hopeless, because we can never be irreparably broken.  We cannot be born, and we cannot die.  Like all energy we can only change shapes and sizes and manifestations...But that part of us greater than the sum of our parts cannot begin and cannot end, and so it cannot fail."

 *As much as I wanted to include the entire last two pages of the book I didn't for the sake of not giving too much away, but trust me when I say, it is even better than it is here.  You will have to get the book and read it all for yourself, and no John Green does not pay me.  

I generally get emotionally invested in the books I read, but this truly hit home and hit hard.  Since losing David I have thought a lot about a lot of things.  One thing I soon realized is where I stand on the idea of the afterlife: it exists.  It has to exist.  And not just because it makes me feel better, but because I feel it, I know it.  I realize my Catholic faith told me this many many years ago and reiterated the point for 12 years of schooling, but no one would ever accuse me of being very religious and there just wasn't enough for me to say steadfastly that yes it does exist.  Maybe the science behind it doesn't fit as perfectly as the quote from the book might make it sound, but regardless, I have found my balance, my explanation.  David had so much energy when he was alive and so much life to yet live, that all of that couldn't have just disappeared or been destroyed.  I know it wasn't.  The energy that is David simply has changed shape or size or manifestation and I think (and hope) that anyone who knew him would agree.  I hope that others too see that energy in a beautiful mountain view, feel it in an early morning run and hear it in every sound of laughter.  Because that's where that energy is now, and trust me when I say there is plenty of it to last all of our lifetimes.  

Always dancin'

Just Love

When you lose someone to suicide you begin to question everything.  Everything.  Beyond just the "why?" you think back to every conversation, every argument, every look, every moment, every piece of advice you offered, every word they said, every word you said.  You wonder what you may have overlooked, brushed off or made worse.  You wonder what you could have done differently, what you could have done or said better, how you could have possibly changed the outcome.  And I believe that is healthy and natural, a part of this long and painful process of coping and healing.  But then you must also reach a point where you understand and accept that as an individual you could not have changed what happened.  No single word or conversation would have made things turn out differently.  They just wouldn't have.  To believe you could have prevented this is to believe you could cure cancer overnight.  You cannot save people you can only love them.  And I did love David.  I do love David.  I loved David to the best of my ability both as a partner and as a friend.  But I could not save him.  None of us could.

David will forever hold a very large place in my heart and I believe that his presence there will allow me to love others more wholly, not less.  I have come to realize, or perhaps just hope, that David's passing has not removed a piece of my heart; it has not left a hole.  David fills more of my heart now than he ever has.  I can get up every morning and live life because of him, not in spite of what happened to him.  He is more than this physical world now and is able to share his spirit and love with all those he knew and loved more than he ever could have on Earth.  I know that he cannot save us from this struggle, this pain, but he can and will always love us.

Missing, Remembering, Wishing

I have spent the last 10+ days writing down thoughts and memories of David whenever I can.  I know that had the unique privilege of sharing so much time and so many conversations with David over the last 4 years and I thought there is no better reason to revive this blog (yet again) than to begin sharing these thoughts with others who knew and loved him.  Below are some of the things I will miss and remember most about David.

• I will miss your use of the word "nicesh", and how easily everyone around you picked it up
• I will miss your letters and poems: whether they were silly or serious, they were always sincere
• I will miss seeing how excited you got when you bought Combos, one of your favorite guilty pleasures, especially when you bought them from Menard's as a movie snack 
• I will miss arguing with you.  You were never afraid to challenge me, make me stand for something and push me to consider all the possibilities.  You made sure that our arguments were never grudges and whether one of us conceded or we simply agreed to disagree, apologies or thank yous were always exchanged and life would move on as normal after
• I will miss our lengthy chats in our classrooms: those that occurred when we probably should have been working, but life seemed to get in the way and one of us just needed to talk
• I will miss coming to you for one of my "Am I being crazy?" talks because you are the only person who had no problem being brutally honest with me
• I will miss our movie nights, where it always seemed to be your turn to pick, but let's face it, we both know I am terrible at decisions so that was probably for the best.
• I will miss our ridiculous Wii tournaments spent conquering the levels of Mario Party, trying to figure out if we really were smarter than 5th graders (the results were always inconclusive) or betting each other over what the number one answer in Family Feud would be
• I will miss the times we spent talking through life decisions: deciding to move to Colombia or return home after, making career changes or going back to school
• I will miss hearing about your adventures and misadventures, like that time you realized you did not in fact enjoy hiking 15+ km per day

• I will remember all of the things you taught me
• You taught me about history and kept me up to date on current events
• I learned to tolerate and even enjoy country music
• I learned what a crick and timber are and how to go crick stompin'
• You taught me to drive fearlessly on dark country roads
• You taught me that it's OK to not always have it together and you let me be a hot mess sometimes
• I learned (and witnessed many times) what it truly means to dance like nobody is watching
• You taught me that what others think about me is not even remotely as important as what I think about myself
• I learned to cherish the small moments in life: a quick phone call before bed, quietly reading in the park, a walk through the woods, a short conversation with a stranger
• I learned (sort of) how to play tennis, or at least how to defend myself against your serves
• I will remember (and laugh about) your innate ability to be covered in crumbs, no matter what you were eating
• I will remember the hours you spent searching for and downloading the Stars Wars saga so that I could watch them all for the first time
• I will remember your love for Taco Pizza, especially if it came from Happy Joe's
• I will remember our last minute Austin road trip: attempting to make it to salsa lessons, lazer tag and your purple face after drinking margaritas too fast
• I will remember (and now laugh about) how we missed our flight to Miami because you had a steak knife in your computer bag, leftover from the cheese and crackers you would take to school for lunch
• I will remember all the times you stole my clothes.  From running shorts to t-shirts to hiking pants you took it all.  If any of my clothes had gone missing, chances were that you had it.  Even better was that you would admit to liking them so much you offered to buy several items from me because you just didn't think you could go out and find them to purchase yourself
• I will remember all the times you showed up at my apartment door last year out of the blue just because
• I will remember the times I caught you listening and practicing song lyrics (usually rap) on YouTube, so you could be a master karaokier (and possibly the next Eminem)
• I will remember how you always seemed to have a prop to dance with whether you offered your umbrella to a singer at a bar in Cali as she sang Rihanna or whipped out your Razor while singing Lady Gaga's "Telephone" at Jess & Dan's wedding
• I will remember your words of encouragement whenever I was unsure of myself
• I will remember the light in your eyes when you were feeling better, when you were having a good day
• I will remember how your face lit up with joy and pride whenever you updated me about your family, which is how many of our conversations started
• I will never forget your undying love for the silly north side baseball team, although to be honest I'd go to another game with you in a heartbeat
• I will cherish the times we spent huddled around one of our laptops watching a Hawkeye or Bears game
• I will remember you excitedly telling me about how you finally bought a smart phone and how late you stayed up downloading apps (all after making fun of me for years for my iPhone)

• I wish we could talk one more time and that I could tell you again how important you are, how loved you are and how strong you are
• I wish I would have called to catch up one more time and tell you how proud I was of you
• I wish I could have seen you as a husband and father, because you would have been amazing at both
• I would have reassured your kids that you were not trying to embarrass them with your insane dancing      and singing in front of their friends, but rather teaching them a lesson about being yourself and loving life
• I would have loved to see you in whatever career path you chose
• I wish I could talk through my future life decisions with you
• I thought one day I'd be inviting you to my wedding and having to explain that "no it's not weird if David is there...I mean it's David!" 

• I will be forever grateful for the relationship and friendship we built over the last 4 years.
• I will cherish the many memories that help me make it through each day.
• I am appreciative of all that you taught me and how much you helped me grow.  I will do my best to carry these things with me always.
• I am thankful for having had you in my life.  I wouldn't exchange a single tear or drop of pain if it meant not having known you.

They say that it's always darkest before the dawn and I wish you could have stayed to see the sun rise again.  The heart ache that I feel now is shared by so many who knew and loved you; I hope that you can find a way to help guide us through this.  My life has forever changed for having known and lost you.  You truly were one of a kind Davy Jo.  

Year One Highlights

Here's the thing: I got distracted (that happens easily), but now it has been more than 3 months since I have written and I don't know where to start.   So I thought I'd start with a little review to ease back into things.  If you've been following me since I started over a year ago, you already know some of the things I've been up to.  Looking back on the year myself, I started thinking about some of the highlights from the year, so here it goes, in no particular order:

1. Moved to a new country (duh)
2. Survived Carnaval in Barranquilla
3. Milked a cow (and survived my first overnight trip with Middle Schoolers) 
4. Held a (wild) tarantula. Not to be confused with overcoming my ridiculous (but legitimate) fear of spiders, because that didn't happen
5. Swam in the Amazon River
6. Caught a piranha
7. Went canopying for the first time (and the second)
8. Hiked (and almost made it) to a volcano
9. Kayaked on the Pacific
10. Tried yoga for the first time, and loved it
11. Made a BA Rubik's Cube cake for a lovely shared 11-11-11 birthday
12. Toured a cathedral carved into a salt mine
13. Cooked...a lot
14. Started scratching off my to-do list
15. Watched some amazing salsa dancers
16. Went tubing for the first time

I'm hoping this will get my butt in gear to keep this baby updated, but I'm not making any promises.  Until next time...

Murphy's Law

You know, the one that says if something can go wrong it will?  Yep.  That's the one that pretty much controls my life, and today is just another example of it.  All I wanted to do was to get home to Chicago after finishing my year teaching abroad (more reflections on said year to come), that's not too much to ask, is it?  Apparently, it is, because the Travel Gods certainly did not make are not making things easy today. 

I knew starting today, that the 1 hour and 55 minute window I gave myself to catch a connecting flight from Miami to Tampa was cutting it close, but several people assured me this shouldn't be a problem (I won't name names, but I have a Facebook status as support).  It shouldn't have been a problem, except that our flight from Cali to Miami took an extra 25 minutes.  Ut oh.  This left me racing as fast I could from my seat in 27A through the plane, up stairs and escalators, running passed and bumping into people while shouting "Que pena!" to the English speaking couple that sat next to me on the plane.  I got to Passport Control, cut a bunch of people missionary group (I know what you're thinking..."karma") to catch up to David who was ahead in line.  Then when it came time to choose the passport line, it turns out I picked the line with the slowest officer ever, who I later saw type one fingered to enter in the information for the girl ahead of me who also happened to have filled out her paperwork out wrong.  Awesome.  At that point, people who had been behind me and had not run and cut lines had in fact gotten in and out of passport control at least 4 people ahead of me.  Damn.  Off to the races again to get luggage, go through customs, recheck bag, go through security again and book it to my gate with about 40 minutes left.  Of course 5 different airport workers told me 5 different places to recheck my bag before I could continue running to security.  I made it through all of that with about 10-15 minutes before plane was scheduled to take off and continued to run until I found the flight information board to find my gate, I was goign to make it after all.  Then I find that my flight had been delayed 45 minutes.  At this point the dripping sweat and ridiculously red face felt really unnecessary, even more so when the flight was delayed another 20 minutes, so a grabbed a wrap from Au Bon Pain, sent a few "I'm here!" texts, and watched Obama's speech on immigration.

Flight to Tampa boarded and the stewardess gleefully stated several times that our short 35 minute flight to Tampa should be pleasant and apologized for the delays.  Except that when we were descending, there was "VIP action" in Tampa, and we didn't have clearance to land.  Turns out Obama was in Tampa, costing me another 15-20 minutes in the air, and getting my landing time way too close to my 4:30 take off from Tampa to Chicago.  Luckily, I was in 10B this time, not so lucky that I was stuck between the bronchitis brothers who hacked their way through our flight while I tried to read Harry Potter y la piedra filosofal.  I got off the plane pretty quick to find that my gate to Chicago was right next to the one I cam out of.  Perfect.  Delayed to 4:45.  Kind of perfect since I was cutting it close anyway, and now I can board with ease.  Except, no one else is boarding yet, and the plane doesn't appear to be here...hmmmm.  That would see to make it difficult to take off in 25 minutes.  As I went to check that I hadn't missed anything and that my baggage would make it to the plane, I overheard the woman at the counter tell someone else that there would be further delays and she would make an announcement soon.  The estimated departure time sneakily changed to 6:00pm and about 10 minutes later we were informed our plane was in Ft. Meyers due to storms approaching Tampa.  Great.  Guess I have time for a coffee and parfait from Starbucks.

And theeeeennnnn they got my order wrong at Starbucks.  Shocking.  Six months since I have had Starbucks, I'm the only person in the place, and they manage to get it wrong.  Sheesh.  It wasn't worth complaining so I attempting to slurp on what they made me and embraced the free WiFi at Tampa International.  And now as I have written this, the delay has extended another 45 minutes, a total of 2.25 hours late, as of now.  Who knows when I will actually make it home, but one thing's for sure I know it will be damn worth the wait.

Why Everyone Should Have a Rosa

In case you didn't already know, Rosa is the sweet woman who comes to clean our apartment every Wednesday, and I love her.  Not only does she do the obvious, like clean and iron, but she is consistently making other little improvements around the apartment and providing ways for us to be more tidy and organized; she's kind of like MacGyver, but older and Colombian.  For example:

• That pesky kitchen drawer that continually slid open for weeks on end?  She taped some cardboard to either side, so now its stays shut, no problem.
• The heap of shoes we had in the laundry room?  Why, she fashioned a shoe cubby from an overturned plastic shipping bin we had lying around.
• What to do with the collection of pens, pencils and markers that David brings home in his pockets everyday...Hmmm.  Well I suppose, if you are Rosa you would take the box from a hard drive that we haven't thrown away yet, put it on its side, and turn it into a pencil holder.  Genius.
• Vase for your birthday flowers?  Cut up a Gatorade bottle.  I actually came home and thought she brought us a vase, until upon closer inspection I realized it was in fact a Gatorade bottle.
• Frozen plastic containers full of water for watering plants without flooding them. 

These are just a few of the genius ideas she has come up with in our apartment.  If Rosa had a blog, I would be pinning her ideas to my "Good to Know" board like crazy.  And you all would be re-pinning them.  (Social media overload?  Possibly.) 

In addition to all her handy fix-ups, I think Rosa may also have special powers.  Every once in a while Every other day, our lock on our apartment gets all jammed so that we have to use the key to unlock the lock while the door is already open so that we can close it.  Sounds confusing, and its a pain in the arse.  However, it never fails that whenever Rosa as come for the day, it is magically fixed when we get home.  I have yet to figure out how she does it and I know if we mess up the lock, it won't be fixed until the next Wednesday.

In summary, we (and our apartment) would be a mess without Rosa in our lives.  She is just another one of the many characters in our Colombian lives that has made our year abroad so much easier and enjoyable.

Dear M.I.O. Riders, You Suck.

I like to think that I generally keep things pretty positive on here; true, I may complain here and there, but overall I try to see the bright side of things.  That's not gonna happen in this post.

The M.I.O. is the city sponsored system public buses here, and while I don't really have any qualms with the entity as a whole I certainly do have some issues with the passengers.  Now, if you are one of the M.I.O. riders that is capable of acting civil and like a decent human being, then congratulations, you are in the small minority of people that does not get an eye roll or huff from me at the station.  We have have actually at one time or another shared a frustrated glance, thanks for being awesome.  Unfortunately, such people waiting for the bus are few and far between.  In fact, they sometimes seem nonexistent.  Here's the problem: everyone wants to be the first person to get on the bus they are waiting for which, in turn, causes not only a mad dash for the doors when said bus arrives, but it brings people to clustering around the doors that approximately 2.5 people can fit through at any one time.  That means, even if a person sees that the approaching bus is not the one they desire, they will hold their ground firmly in front of the sliding glass doors so that when their bus does come, they can get on first.  News flash people: THIS DOESN'T WORK.  Really what you are doing is causing mass chaos and more importantly, irritating the hell out of me.  Hi, I'm the one kindly waiting at the back of the crowd until I see the T31 coming from down the block.  And guess what?  I always manage to get on the bus.  Although, sometimes its a close call after I have to push my way through the crowd serving as a blockade for the door.  Sure, I may not always get a seat, but its really not a big deal.  I come from the land of L trains and CTA buses where getting a seat isn't always likely, and sometimes standing is the better choice anyway. 

Then there are those who are fond of the psych out.  The "I have been standing here in front of you and now as a bus that you need comes I am going to move toward the door like this is also the bus I am waiting for, but then stop dead in my tracks so that you have to re-route around me and almost miss the bus you waited 20 minutes for.  I was actually just trying to get closer to the door."  Thanks.  I get it people.  You are worried about getting on the bus and getting a seat, and I understand why.  I sometimes worry too when I see the 4:00pm crowd waiting for the E21 and E31, but you are only making it worse. When you crowd the door, it makes other people nervous too, so they crowd the door and then people have to push through 30 people deep just to get the gosh darn T31!  See?  Its a positive feedback loop, not much different than this one:

So if everyone just waited for their bus to come before stampeding toward the door, then we wouldn't have this ridiculous problem, and everyone could get on the bus peacefully.  But it won't just happen, be the change people.

Oh and don't even get me started on the guy who gets on the bus and stops approximately 8 inches in from the door.  Hi, sir.  Do you realize I can't get passed you and the door is now shutting on me and the 20 others trying to get on the bus?  Thanks for caring.

Paddling the Pacific

When David's friends Tony and Randy decided to visit, we I spent a lot of time trying to think of a good trip to take them on while they were here.  Luckily we had a 3 day weekend, so that made getting out of Cali for a bit a little more reasonable, but still didn't give us much to work with.  After lots of blog stalking, Lonely Planet reading and advice from friends, we decided to do a kayaking trip to the Pacific with Julio and Bicivan, the same group I went with to Volcan Purace.  I had heard nothing but good thinks about this trip and it really couldn't be worse than the volcano hike, that is off course unless I were to fall and tear my MCL again, but that didn't happen, thank goodness.  In fact, it was probably my favorite thing that I have done so far.  Now, I know I say that a lot, but it really was quite the experience.  Even better, we had 4 other co-workers join us, 3 of which had done the trip at least one other time and Kristin's cousin visited last minute and jumped on board.

Saturday started off early, and to a bit off a rough start with me thinking at 4am that they had been kidnapped as they weren't yet home and David's phone mysteriously shut off mid ring.  Luckily, they were ok, well at least not kidnapped, and we eventually made it to meet up with the rest of our group and were on our way to Buenaventura.  After about a 2.5 hour drive, we were in Buenaventura, a major port city on the Pacific Coast.  While there are actually a lot of goods and money coming through the port, the city itself appears very poor because the people benefiting from the port don't actually live there.  While I wouldn't have minded exploring the city a bit, it left much to be desired and I was OK with jumping onto our lancha for the ride to Juanchaco.  I had been warned that this trip was rather bumpy, but we lucked out and although it was the bumpiest boat ride I had been on, it was smooth compared to normal.  Even better, I didn't get seasick at all since my tolerance for motion (cars, taxis, buses boats etc) has improved about 100 fold since being here. 

After settling into our camp-like cabins, we made our way to the beach to get our kayak on.  A quick tutorial from Julio and we set out to the Pacific.  The first day out was filled with the usual coastal rain, which actually wasn't bad since the weather was still warm and we were pretty wet from the ocean anyway.  We spent the next several hours kayaking through caves and caverns (I don't actually know the difference between the two) and exploring the many little tributaries off the bay.  To my surprise, David and I only flipped once and it totally was not our fault.  It was however David's fault when he "accidentally" hit me in the head with his oar going under the dock.  Then we flipped coming back onto the beach and I was covered EVERYWHERE with black sand.  All in all though, a good day out.

Some people needed more instruction than others.

Julio showing us a map of where we were headed

Sunday was an unusual hot and rain free morning and we set out to explore the three islands across from our beach, including a short walk, several waterfalls, tide pools and even a bat cave.  The sun and stops to hike and explore made for a long day, soar backs and ridiculous tan lines; I was wearing Chaco sandals and capris, so even one week later I have white strap lines zigzagging across my feet and it looks like I am wearing socks.  So attractive.  But oddly enough it was quite relaxing.  Our free afternoon was spent by most sleeping and then we went to watch the sunset over the water.

Hanging out in the bat cave

"We're the three best friends that anyone could have..."

Monday was a no kayaking day and we all thought we were hiking to Ladrilleros about 45 minutes away, but we ended up going to La Barra almost 2 hours away which was not good news for my already-had-enough feet.  My sandals are not three-day-in-a-row shoes.  Ouch.  Walking back on the beach in bare feet helped and then came the socks and sandals which was a significant improvement. 

All in all a was an adventure filled weekend with good friends, good guides, good food and beautiful scenery.  Getting out of the city was a great way to enjoy time with visitors and a long weekend break and explore another part of Colombia.

El Lorax: En Busca de la Trúfula Perdida

Given my love for all things Dr. Suess and animated, seeing the Lorax was something I have been looking forward to, especially since Horton Hear a Who was so great.  Yes, I have seen all of the Madagascars, Ice Ages, Shreks and as well as most of the rest of the animated "kids" films released in the last 10 years, and I love them.  I even own quite a few.  They're the type of movie I can watch again and again and they still get a laugh out of me;  I have easily seen Monsters Inc. 10+ times.  When The Lorax finally came out here in Cali, I knew there was a good chance it would only be in the theatres in Spanish since it is easier to dub animated films and kids movies usually come in Spanish.  And so it was.  Last weekend I finally decided to go see El Lorax: En Busca de la Trúfula Perdida, and even recruited Jess to go with me.  I accepted the fact that I may end up lost in a Spanish movie, but thought since the intended audience was children under the age of 12, I might be able to pick up on a few things.  To my surprise, I understood just about everything that was being said, outside of the some of the songs.  Now, yes, I probably could have watched it in silence and picked up on the storyline, but the point is that I actually was able to follow the dialogue, which is pretty awesome. 

Luckily, there were less than 25 people in the entire 2:20 showing, as my tolerance for children in movies is low, so there were few interruptions to our viewing.  We were both quite happy with the movie and found ourselves laughing louder than anyone else in the theatre on multiple occasions.  And while I do think I understood at least 85-90% of the movie, I do want to watch it again, in English, just to check my understanding, and because it was a great movie.  Not to mention Pipsqueak, the most adorable little creature in the movie.   How could you not love him?

Even better, given the message of taking care of the environment, I have every intention of showing some all of this in my class next year during our Human Impacts unit.

The Birds and the...Geckos?

We have about 3-4 regulars in our apartment, geckos that is.  We see them all the time running across walls or even in the dishes in our sink.  I find them entertaining and sometimes can't help but watch them play or fight with one another, something I think David (and now probably others) judges me for.  I tried to play with one once and it bit me.  Oops. 

As I was sitting here posting my last blog I kept hearing their little clicking and squeaking sounds they make at one another and looked up to find two of them right next to one other, which I found super cute.  And then my living room turned into an episode of Life (a series that I of course own and love).  She wasn't havin' it though, and scurried away.  My Saturday nights are super cool sometimes.

  

Can you feel the love tonight?

Namaste

After almost 8 months of saying I wanted and was going to try Yoga, I finally did about 3 weeks ago.  Maggie, one of the 10th grade teachers, teaches a class after school on Thursdays, so I have had plenty of opportunities to join, and plenty of excuses for never actually going.  Back at the beginning of April I got the ok from my doctor to start running and trying Yoga after my knee/MCL debacle and decided I needed to go, for real, because I had a good feeling I would really like it.  Although I did attempt some Wii Yoga in college, that hardly counts as experience.  I think my biggest problem was my fear of feeling foolish as a first timer in a class of people who do Yoga almost weekly.  Luckily, I couldn't have asked for a more welcoming and open environment to attempt Yoga. 

My first class with Maggie went pretty well if you ask me; I was able to follow along pretty easily with some prior knowledge of movements and poses and never completely fell over which I count as a win.  I even surprised myself with some of the poses I was able to actually do and hold, albeit not all of them. I went back the following week and although I felt sore in most places the next day, it felt good.  It is relaxing yet requires focus on specific movements or places and awareness of the body.  And I can tell you from how I feel the day after, it is definitely a work out.  This week we didn't have class due to an after school activity for teacher's day and I found myself actually missing that 45 minutes.  So much so that I just went in search of free online yoga videos.  I found a 50 minute beginner's video, and while it was not as good as Maggie's class, it got the job done, even when my internet stopped working and I had to re-load the video about halfway through.  And now I find myself wondering what I will do while I am home this summer and next year when Maggie is gone.  Maybe Mandi will take over (if you read this, take it as another hint and a bit of pressure hehe) or maybe I will have to try out Yoga in Spanish; that would definitely be interesting.

As you may have noticed if you are an active reader, a lot of this year has been about trying new things (hence the experimenting) and I think that Yoga is just one more reminder that I can't be afraid to attempt something, no matter how uncomfortable or awkward it may make me feel.  Hopefully I can keep this in mind as I finish out my first year here in Colombia, and not lose the sense of wonderment as I move into my second year.  Namaste.

Delirio: Hecho en Cali!

Delirio is a salsa/circus/orchestra show that, as the title says, is made in Cali.  The performance we saw (which turned out to be the premier of the newest show) was "María, un Delirio de Amor", which Carlos explained to us was a Colombian version of Romeo and Juliet.  It is based on a novel written by Jorge Isaacs in which cousins Maria and Efrain fall in love, but are torn apart when Efrain must move to London to continue his studies.  Returning years later, he finds that Maria has died.  In the show I couldn't quite decipher what happened next, either Efrain married a ghost, Maria came back to life and they married, Efrain died and married Maria or Efrain married someone else all together.  Hard to say. 

Regardless, the performance was amazing and the dancing and gymnastics/aerobatics blew me away.  If you watch the dancers' feet on the video, it would be easy to think it is double time; it's not.  We got an extra treat when we discovered that there was also a Michael Jackson tribute portion of the show "Nadie es Igual".  This made the $120.000 pesos more than worth it for me; all of the free stuff they handed us as we walked down the read carpet helped too.  This is a production that I think is worth seeing again, although I would probably wait for the next show for a little variety.  Next time friends or family visit I would love to take them to see this because even if you don't love salsa I think anyone can appreciate the talent it takes to perform in this show.

Now, I thought about titling this blog "Why Technology Hates Me (But Really It's Usually My Fault)", but then decided people would be more likely to want to read about awesome salsa/circus shows in Colombia than hear me complain more.  That doesn't mean I'm not going to complain, but I'll try to keep it to a minimum.  You see, we went to Delirio a week ago, and it has taken me about that long to finally figure out a way to finalize and upload the video that I made of snippets from the show.  First, Windows Movie Maker would crap out anytime I tried to rewind in the video as I was editing it.  Weird.  Then when it was finally done (several hours and restarts later) it wouldn't upload to Blogger.  As I tried to upload it to YouTube, I discovered that it wasn't actually in a video, but a project file.  Oops.  Save as video file, wait ridiculously long time for save, upload to Blogger.  Wrong. No matter how long I left it to upload I would come back to an un-uploaded video.  Several days of trying and finally decided to upload the video to YouTube and then post THAT to Blogger...after it uploaded to YouTube for more than 230 minutes.  Por fin, I have a video for you, and while I am not requiring you to watch it, I think it is worth the 5 days it took for me to succeed.  Even if I have a shaky video hand and there are people occasionally talking in the background.  Insider tip: if you click "watch on YouTube" you can watch it full screen.  Enjoy.

Also, we're kind of famous as this is on the Delirio Facebook page,
along with a few others.

Saturday Cooking: Fruit Leathers!

Sometimes my life here is really exciting; today was not one of those times.  That is unless you find fruit leathers really exciting (like I do) then, well, this just might blow you away.  I have found myself spending quite a bit more time in the kitchen, particularly on Saturday afternoons, experimenting and trying new things.  Today's venture stemmed from thinking about good homemade, healthy snacks to take on an upcoming kayaking trip in May; any all day/multi day outdoor adventure require snacks, unless you want cranky travelers.  Also, I made dried apple slices a while back and they turned out pretty good, so I figured why not try some fruit leathers.  While most kids (like David) hated when parents tried to trick you into thinking these were a suitable replacement snack, I was the one who preferred these over the Fruit-By-The-Foot and Fruit Roll-Ups, and still do, but they are just so darn expensive.  Luckily, as it turns out, they are pretty easy and cheap to make!  I looked up directions on several different places, but ultimately I kind of just went with it; I still really hate following recipes step-by-step and I'm not sure why. 

1. Cut and clean the fruit you want to use (I used strawberries), cutting away any spots that you wouldn't normally want to eat.

2. Add to large saucepan with enough water to cover the bottom.  I don't think the amount of water is important; you want enough to stew the fruit, but the more you have the longer it will likely take your final product to dry.

3. Add the juice from one small lemon (I think this helps bring out the flavors) and sugar to taste.  I only added a sprinkle to mine because as the leather dries the natural sugar from the fruit will become more concentrated, so be careful not to add too much.

4. Cook the fruit until it is very soft and mushy.

 

5. Then add the fruit to a blender and puree

This made about 2 cookie sheets of fruit leathers.

6. OK here's the tricky part.  Line a cookie sheet with plastic wrap and brush with olive oil.  This step about made me lose my mind.  I had at least 3 attempts with plastic wrap before it was thrown across the kitchen because the plastic was sticking only to itself and NOT where I wanted it.  One time I managed to carefully lie it on the pan I messed it up when I tried to brush it.  This led me to use parchment paper.  I brushed the pan first with oil and then put the paper on top, the oil helps the paper to stick down.  Then I brushed the paper with a little bit more oil to avoid the fruit sticking to it.  Genius.  I filled one pan with about half of the puree and evened it out with a spatula.  Then I considered that the fruit might still get really stuck to the paper and I would be either A. eating a lot of parchment paper or B. ruin an entire afternoon's attempt at fruit leather.  This led me to the plastic once again for the second time.  This time I was smarter than the plastic wrap.  I again brushed the pan with oil so the plastic wrap had no choice but to stick.  Gotcha!  I then had myself a little experiment testing which worked better: parchment paper or plastic wrap, at which point I considered writing this post entire in the format of a lab report (nerd alert), but decided to save the public from complete and utter boredom.  You can thank me later.  Oops.  Sorry about the excessively long step 6!

Don't worry, each tray had equal time on the top and bottom rack
in order to ensure only 1 independent variable.

7.  These bad boys go into the oven at about 140 F or 60 C to dry out.  It helps to keep the oven door propped open a bit to get the air circulating around the trays. 

8.  Wait an excessively long time for fruit to dry.  On the bright side, all this made the apartment smell absolutely delightful, but that just made me want them to finish sooner.  In the end it took about 4 hours.  Some unevenly thin parts were a little too dry and I would want them a little thicker next time, so timing will vary.

9.  Discover that parchment paper and plastic wrap work equally well and decide you will definitely use only parchment paper next time.

10.  Enjoy homemade fruit leathers!

10.  Try other fruits.


Verdict: Success!

These will definitely be making an appearance on future outdoor adventure trips as a super yummy and healthy snack hopefully with some other tasty flavors.

Celebrating Earth Week

In honor of Earth Day/Week, the Middle School decided to get our kids out and enjoying the world around them for 1 hour everyday.  While this meant shorter class periods and trying to get 11-14 year olds to class on time with no bells. it also meant (hopefully) getting the students to see and understand some things that they might miss on a normal day.  There were several activities planned for the week, such as: a water walk to represent how far some people have to walk for fresh water, garbage and recycled art, yoga and meditation, Frisbee golf and a nature scavenger hunt.  I decided to sign up to help make and chaperon the nature scavenger hunt, and a good decision it was; as it turns out, our students really like to complain about walking and touching garbage, so some activities didn't go over as well as intended.  It took some time to get groups engaged in deciphering the clues and wandering ALL over campus to find the nature objects, but in the end we had two teams get all 21 of the clues and several others come pretty close.  On the second day we had students complete the hunt, I was wandering myself to make sure students weren't slacking off, and I decided to capture the images for the clues too.  Here's what I found:

1. Never say you can't, just find a tree with a hanging plant.

2. Near the place you learn the ABCs, you'll find fern-covered palm trees.

3. Don't give excuses starting with but, do your best to find a giant hut.

4. Look for flowers that appear just like the sun, but don't be fooled it must be a real one.

5. A place you can go to sit and eat too, here you will find trees waiting to greet you.

6. Follow the path to walls made of stone, the green coverings offer a cool natural tone.

7. Finding a palm tree will fulfill this stop, but in order to succeed you must leap, jump or hop.

8. I normally hang high in the trees, but it is possible that I have fallen to the ground.  No matter which way, I am a tasty treat for animals all around.

 9. A natural looking door is what you should look for

10. We’re easy to find, we crawl, we fly, and we can even sting.  Of one of us a small image you should bring .

Do you see what I see?

11. Look for me near the base of a tree.  I am often poisonous, so make sure you don't eat me! 

12. I am the color of t-shirts, shoes, backpacks and sometimes even ink. Combine the red and white and you get the color______. Go find something this color and take a great shot. Just make sure it´s grown and not bought!

13. Look for me, I’m everywhere among the other colors in the ground; Over there in deep violet pigments I am around.

14. You can find me in all those places where the Gods bled;
And stained Mother Nature with this beautiful color instead.
The blood painted pieces in the puzzle of creation;
You will find on the Bolivar Campus and across the nation.

15. Parts and pieces painted with drops of sunlight are found in flowers and TREES where they shine so bright!

16. Near the soccer field, the water tumbles clean and free.  Snap a photo of this and be sure to capture the palm tree.

17. Near a great waterfall you will have a good vantage, take a picture of your team in the middle of this bridge.

18. A scary plant that grows out of the dirt, it is best to not touch it, for you just might get hurt.

19.  Near a place where Bolivar is feared, you will find some trees that wear a long beard.

20. A typical palm tree this is NOT, it is shaped in the form of something we use when we´re hot.

21. Although it has no organs and has no feathers, find this bright bird all grouped together.

OK so I may have had an unfair advantage considering I made the scavenger hunt with Jeff and our principal, but you will notice that technically I didn't fulfill some of them since I couldn't be in the pictures, like the jump shot in front of a palm tree (because I was the photographer).  I also snapped this of a baby chucha, which is kind of like an oppossom, that the had to catch from the boys bathroom.  Super cute as a baby, not so cute as an adult, especially when it runs across the science building balcony (or in some cases into classrooms) while you are trying to teach.

Bonus points?

I think our students got at least something out of the activity and I might dare say that some even enjoyed it.  Hopefully they can appreciate the amazing campus we have with such diverse natural beauty that we can see almost on a daily basis.